Female Orgasm Tip of The Week-Sexual Mirroring Skills
Hi All, tis I your fearless and loyal sex coach back again to inspire you with more outstanding sexual lore. Things have been a little crazy since the launch of ForeverMan: How To Beat Premature Ejaculation And Have The Best Sex Ever.
It's important to remember what separates the Secret Orgasm Tips from the rest of the sexual skills programs out there and that is that SOT or as I like to call it - The Forbidden Secrets Of Sexual Mastery System. Is exactly that.
It is a system.
But its a system that has tremendous flexibility built into it. It's important to remember that having the ability to percieve and modify what you do is the key. That being said sometimes things still go a bit awry as in today's question from Dan.
Here's how to fix that.
Today's Question is from Dan, who writes:
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Dear David,
I sent you some questions a while back but it was right in the middle of the forever man release, so I figured it went by the wayside because you were very busy.
In that email, I indicated that I thought that 'doing what she did to me' might not be working because my wife was doing the things that I like instead of following her inner map.
Well, that has been absolutely confirmed!
The other day she flat out said it. Something like, "I know you've been into this mirroring thing but the action is down here (pointig to her breasts)." I truly believe her because my 'pay attention' skills were sending back the same information - when I return to her what she does I get either little response or she actually gets annoyed.
So, now, I'm a little bit stuck.
She can't tell me what will really set her off since I am sure she is (and most women are) absolutely clueless on a conscious level to what they really need done to them.
The proof is that she thinks I should head straight to her nipples when, of course, that is the last thing I should do. . .'build-up is everything' (this is the one master key I already kinda knew). And she is NOT projecting AT ALL.
Where do I go from here?
Dan
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Hi Dan,
I am reminded of a story from my speed seduction days.
It goes something like this.
"A guy learns how to use hypnotic language patterns to seduce hot women. So, eager to try his new skills out, and having memorized the exact language, order, and sequence to put the hypnotic whammy on any woman, he goes off to the local pick-up bar to hopefully get a woman with his SS skills.
When he gets to the bar He sees this hot blonde sitting all by herself and so he heads over, opens the conversation and starts into his speed seduction routine. About halfway through his first pattern the woman says
" you know all I need is about one more drink and I'll go home with the next guy who asks me."
Excited by the prospect of getting lucky our hero launches into the next pattern in his speed seduction sequence and is about to launch into the third when the hot young women gets up and leaves."
What is the moral of the story?
Should our hero have blindly followed the protocol he was given to the exclusion of all else? or would he have simply been better off saying " Bar Tender... another round please"
Your woman is telling exactly where to go to get to the next level, now does that mean you should trash everything you have studied...
Heck no, just have the flexibility to use what ever your woman gives you to get your mission accomplished.
Remember that women are exceptionally good at picking up subtle cues and acting on them and if they know they are being mirrored they actually resent it!
It wouldn't surprise me if your wife learned really early on what things get you completely aroused and has been doing to you what you really like for a very long time.
Hence, when you mirror back to her, you are actually mirroring yourself and not her!
Now granted thats just speculation on my part because I am not in the room with you when you two are playing.
So if she is telling you where to go and what to do... do it!
Then "pay attention" to her responses, are they stronger and more prounounced when you do to her what she asked you to do?
Does she moan louder, move her hips more, get wetter etc.
The time to pay attention to a woman's responses is when she is completely focused on something else. If she knows your watching things can get a little bolluxed up.
Use what she "told" you to do concsciously as a the baseline.
Don't veer too far off the beaten path, make little side trips and notice if her responses are stronger or weaker.
Thats how you develop your sexual gps.
If you wife is secure enough to tell you what she needs, then you are ahead of the game. Just don't get pigeon-holed into believing its the "only" thing that can get her excited and hyper-aroused.
Women are a never ending source of fun and learning.
All of the techniques in SOT still apply but if you aren't satisfying her sexual criteria and values (i.e. her personal map) you aren't working from the heart of the system.
Hope that answers your question.
Its a good one by the way, and I apologize for not getting back to you sooner.
The ForeverMan Launch Was Amazing.
A month later I am still getting at least 5 to 10 emails a day from people who missed the deadline and are salivating to buy the course.
Thats about it for now,
Keep me posted on how your doing.
Until Next Time,
Rock Her World And Take Names!
Sincerely,
David Van Arrick
Your Loyal Friend and Sex Coach
ps remember to check out the free sex tips articles on the Secret Orgasm Tips website
It's important to remember what separates the Secret Orgasm Tips from the rest of the sexual skills programs out there and that is that SOT or as I like to call it - The Forbidden Secrets Of Sexual Mastery System. Is exactly that.
It is a system.
But its a system that has tremendous flexibility built into it. It's important to remember that having the ability to percieve and modify what you do is the key. That being said sometimes things still go a bit awry as in today's question from Dan.
Here's how to fix that.
Today's Question is from Dan, who writes:
************************************************************************************
Dear David,
I sent you some questions a while back but it was right in the middle of the forever man release, so I figured it went by the wayside because you were very busy.
In that email, I indicated that I thought that 'doing what she did to me' might not be working because my wife was doing the things that I like instead of following her inner map.
Well, that has been absolutely confirmed!
The other day she flat out said it. Something like, "I know you've been into this mirroring thing but the action is down here (pointig to her breasts)." I truly believe her because my 'pay attention' skills were sending back the same information - when I return to her what she does I get either little response or she actually gets annoyed.
So, now, I'm a little bit stuck.
She can't tell me what will really set her off since I am sure she is (and most women are) absolutely clueless on a conscious level to what they really need done to them.
The proof is that she thinks I should head straight to her nipples when, of course, that is the last thing I should do. . .'build-up is everything' (this is the one master key I already kinda knew). And she is NOT projecting AT ALL.
Where do I go from here?
Dan
************************************************************************************
Hi Dan,
I am reminded of a story from my speed seduction days.
It goes something like this.
"A guy learns how to use hypnotic language patterns to seduce hot women. So, eager to try his new skills out, and having memorized the exact language, order, and sequence to put the hypnotic whammy on any woman, he goes off to the local pick-up bar to hopefully get a woman with his SS skills.
When he gets to the bar He sees this hot blonde sitting all by herself and so he heads over, opens the conversation and starts into his speed seduction routine. About halfway through his first pattern the woman says
" you know all I need is about one more drink and I'll go home with the next guy who asks me."
Excited by the prospect of getting lucky our hero launches into the next pattern in his speed seduction sequence and is about to launch into the third when the hot young women gets up and leaves."
What is the moral of the story?
Should our hero have blindly followed the protocol he was given to the exclusion of all else? or would he have simply been better off saying " Bar Tender... another round please"
Your woman is telling exactly where to go to get to the next level, now does that mean you should trash everything you have studied...
Heck no, just have the flexibility to use what ever your woman gives you to get your mission accomplished.
Remember that women are exceptionally good at picking up subtle cues and acting on them and if they know they are being mirrored they actually resent it!
It wouldn't surprise me if your wife learned really early on what things get you completely aroused and has been doing to you what you really like for a very long time.
Hence, when you mirror back to her, you are actually mirroring yourself and not her!
Now granted thats just speculation on my part because I am not in the room with you when you two are playing.
So if she is telling you where to go and what to do... do it!
Then "pay attention" to her responses, are they stronger and more prounounced when you do to her what she asked you to do?
Does she moan louder, move her hips more, get wetter etc.
The time to pay attention to a woman's responses is when she is completely focused on something else. If she knows your watching things can get a little bolluxed up.
Use what she "told" you to do concsciously as a the baseline.
Don't veer too far off the beaten path, make little side trips and notice if her responses are stronger or weaker.
Thats how you develop your sexual gps.
If you wife is secure enough to tell you what she needs, then you are ahead of the game. Just don't get pigeon-holed into believing its the "only" thing that can get her excited and hyper-aroused.
Women are a never ending source of fun and learning.
All of the techniques in SOT still apply but if you aren't satisfying her sexual criteria and values (i.e. her personal map) you aren't working from the heart of the system.
Hope that answers your question.
Its a good one by the way, and I apologize for not getting back to you sooner.
The ForeverMan Launch Was Amazing.
A month later I am still getting at least 5 to 10 emails a day from people who missed the deadline and are salivating to buy the course.
Thats about it for now,
Keep me posted on how your doing.
Until Next Time,
Rock Her World And Take Names!
Sincerely,
David Van Arrick
Your Loyal Friend and Sex Coach
ps remember to check out the free sex tips articles on the Secret Orgasm Tips website
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7/16/2007 02:45:00 PM
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